Reimagining your wedding or more frankly referred to as “dealing with the 2020 sh*t storm”

First off: WTF 2020. Secondly, I’m sorry.

I’m sorry this year has been a rain cloud of grief on your wedding plans. Sure, you’ve got options (reschedule, virtual wedding, small ceremony, etc.), but these aren't choices. Your choice was taken away from you the moment the global pandemic came and flipped our world upside down. These days when I talk with couples about their weddings, the word that keeps coming up is “loss.” Loss from changing the date, moving to a virtual celebration, cutting down the guest list, or even just the loss of excitement around wedding planning. Whatever you end up deciding, I know it won’t be easy or fair, and for that I am sorry.

As you grieve the loss of what was and try to embrace the reality of what is, you may feel the whole gamut of emotions: anger, confusion, hopelessness, fatigue, quiet resolve. Let yourself feel those things. Be kind. Be patient. Indulge in the healing power of a cream filled donut (hint: Paula’s Donuts). Do what you need to do to be well.  

Although I’ve been coordinating weddings for over six years, a global pandemic feels like the best possible time to launch my website. Yes, you read that right. I firmly believe celebrating in the face of despair is an act of resistance. Despite overwhelming loss, we refuse to let our joy be squelched. You and I can’t dismiss the grief. Those moments of sadness will always be there, but we can choose to welcome them as familiar friends and begin to move forward.

The good part: You don’t have to move forward and plan the “what’s next” alone. I am here to help. Bring all of your feelings and let’s reimagine your wedding together. I’ll bring the donuts!

- Sarah